It is not uncommon for us to get calls from both women and men, “My spouse is having an affair!” While the experience is too common, for the individual involved, we remember it is personal. What should you be aware of within your marriage that might help you “divorce-proof”? Hint: in large part, it has to do with who is in charge of what (i.e. does one partner know everything money and the other know everything kids but never the two meet?). In a strong marriage, BOTH participants are partners on understanding the basics of what makes their day to day lives’ together tick. When one spouse has no idea what credit cards they own and the other is unaware their middle child takes medication, this is a symptom that screams things can plunge downhill quickly. Don’t leave yourself and your marriage vulnerable by sticking your head in the sand: listen for tips to avoid the affair, and what to do if you find one already in progress.